The Social Coach

A few weeks ago, I wrote an article on why you don’t need to be tall to meet women. That said, gaining a few inches in height wouldn’t hurt most guys when it comes to meeting women.

A good friend of mine just launched an online store selling height increasing altitude shoes. Here’s the blurb from the site:

Altitude Shoes look and feel like normal shoes but give you between 2-4 inches of extra height for the hidden edge. They are designed so that no one will know the difference. But everyone will feel the difference.

If you find the idea of wearing shoes to make you look taller than you are to be unusual, consider how girls wear push-up bras, make-up, corsets and high heels to make them appear more attractive.

Aside from selling height-enhancing shoes and boots, there are some great free tips on how to look taller. Check it out, there’s some great advice in there.

While I enjoy writing dating tips and advice for men, it’s much nicer to meet guys in real life who enjoy and learn from what I do. If you’d like to meet me and hear what I have to say, I’ve been invited to talk at next month’s event “Love and Lust in a Lingerie Shop” on November 25th in Shoredtich, East London.

I’ll be speaking alongside philospoher Robert Rowland Smith and “a special lady who has played a seminal role in the London burlesque scene”.

Tickets are £15 and will be available at Bordello London’s website shortly. Ticket price includes a chance to win a prize and a discount at the store, in case you want to buy something for a special lady in your life!

Look forward to meeting you there.

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Tags: speaking

There are just things that stop most guys from dating the women they want. They don’t know how to be an attractive man, or they fear rejection, or both.

Fear of rejection stops most guys at the first hurdle. They see a beautiful girl, freeze up wondering what to say, and then do nothing. If you manage to get past that stage and actually talk to her, or your lucky enough to introduced to a girl at a social event, you’re going to have to push past your fear of rejection to move on to the next step. Unless you’re going to take her home that night, you’re going to need her number.

My guess is if you meet a girl you like and you want her phone number, you do one of two things:

1. Nothing – You worry that she’ll say no, so you don’t ask
2. You fluff arond asking her for her number awkwardly

If you’re like most guys, you probably do nothing. It’s OK – we all worry about being rejected. But if you really want to improve your dating life you’re going to have to man up and face the fear. If she says “no” nothing bad will happen, apart from maybe a little knock to your ego.

I’d love to tell you there’s a magic way to ensure that every girl will say yes. There isn’t, sorry – life’s a bitch, eh? If you want to be a bit smoother than asking “Can I have your phone number?” here’s what I usually do. Let’s imagine I’m at a bar, I’ve been talking to a girl for 15 minutes and I think she might be interested:

Me: “Hey, I have to get back to my friends, they’ll think you’ve kidnapped me or something. Been good talking to you”.
Her: (laughing) “Yes, you too”
Me: “You’re fun – we should have a drink together another time”
Her: “OK. Erm, give me your number and I’ll call you”

(Note: If you’ve done a good job earlier, she’ll often offer you her number at this point. I’ve assumed here this girl hasn’t)

Me: “haha, you’ll never call – you’re a girl. You’ll get all shy and embarrassed and wonder what to say. Tell you what, we’ll swap”
Her: “sure”

It really doesn’t need to be more difficult to that. Getting her phone number should not be your goal. You want her to be excited about the thought of seeing you again. if she is, exhanging phone numbers becomes automatic.

Finally, I like to save my number in her phone as something funny like “Darren, hot guy from X bar”. When I call her over the next couple of days, it will appear on her screen and she’ll laugh as she remembers the good time we had talking in the bar.

Remember, you won’t get anywhere without asking. What have you got to lose?

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Tags: dating, how to get a girl's number, meeting women, phone calls

I just saw this Nike ad and it got me thinking about some of the excuses a lot of guys make that stop them from getting success with women. Watch the video first and I’ll look at how this kind of attitude could be preventing you from having the success you want with women and dating.

Do any of those sound familiar?

I find a lot of guys make similar excuses when it comes to meeting women.

“I’m too tired tonight”
“I don’t really fancy her that much”
“I’m not wearing my favourite shirt”
“I’m too busy with work”
“I’ll call her tomorrow”

I’ve even heard, multiple times “I don’t like the music in this club” as an excuse not to talk to girls. I’ve never quite figured out how one affects the other, if anyone can tell me I’d be grateful.

What reasons do you give yourself as to why you’re not meeting and dating the girls you’d like to? How many of these are just excuses for not taking action?