What to do on a date
Posted by Darren Deller |
So, you managed to pluck up the courage to approach a girl you liked, it went well and she gave you her phone number. Now you’re you’re not sure what to do and you’re worried about messing things up. Here’s some advice to make sure your first date goes smoothly.
Before we start, you’re going to need to set things up. If you’re not sure how, check out my article on what to do after getting a girl’s phone number.
Avoid the dinner date
If your idea of a first date is to arrive with flowers and then whisk her away to an expensive restaurant, time to think again. The first time you meet it’s best to do something simple and fun, where there’s plenty of opportunity for you to talk and get to know each other and hopefully build some sort of emotional connection. Personally, I like to just go for a drink in a decent bar or pub, or even just for a coffee.
Ideally, you want an environment that allows you to easily talk, where there isn’t the pressure of it being a “date”. If you can pick a venue that you’re familiar with even better, as it will help you to relax as you work your magic.
Be the man and lead
The type of men women are attracted to are not afraid to make decisions and are willing to take the lead. When you call her to arrange to meet, and while you’re on the date, make sure you have a plan in mind of what you’re going to do. She’ll be more attracted to you if you show you can take the lead, and if you have a plan, you’ll feel more confident and find it easier to relax and be yourself.
Be your (best) self
While you may like her good looks and amazing body, she’ll want to feel some kind of emotional connection with you in order for things start to progress further. If you hide your true self, she’ll likely see through you and realise you are not the person you’re pretending to be.
That said, no need to tell her all about how the last five dates you had went terribly, or how you still take your clothes to your mother’s house to be washed and ironed. Be yourself, but let her see the best side of who you are. She can find out about the your more annoying habits a bit later on….
Touchy, touchy
If you want to be in with a chance of kissing her at some point in the evening, it’s better start getting physical as early as you can. The sooner you get comfortable invading each other’s personal space, the less awkward it will feel when you go for the kiss.
Try to pick a date venue where you can sit side by side instead of across each other on a table, as this will make it easier to be tactile with each other. Start slowly, touching her hand or arm as you talk and build up a little as she seems comfortable with you.
Finish on a high
If it’s your first date, she may well not be ready to go home with you just yet. That’s OK, but make sure you finish the date at a high point so that she’s looking forward to the next time she sees you. Assuming you do, you could well be doing a lot more than kissing on your second date….
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