Often when I’m contacted by guys who are a little older, they worry that they are too old to improve their success with women. Sometimes they think are too old for women to be attracted to them at all.

I’ll be 33 a little later this year and people often think I am older than I am. I’m starting to lose my hair and the effects of too many cigarettes and too much alcohol in my twenties is starting to show through. But, I still manage to meet gorgeous girls who are often considerably younger than I am. In fact, I sometimes find that meeting and attracting women becomes easier the older I get.

If your age worries you, here are a few thoughts to set your mind at rest:

An old dog can learn new tricks

I hate the phrase “you can’t teach an old dog new tricks”. My father was 70 this year and started to use a computer when he was 65. He now happily surfs the web, sends emails, using internet banking and books his holidays online.

The problem you may have as you get older is that your ego won’t allow you to learn new things. You like to think that you’re now an authority on everything in life and should be giving advice rather than receiving it. If you can allow yourself to let that feeling go, you can take on new skills quite easily.

Evolution says older men are more attractive

According to evolutionary psychologists, while men look for women who are younger and therefore more fertile, women tend to be attracted to men who have status. In The Evolution of Desire, David Buss asks the question “What do women want“? and comes up with things like status, financial security and dependency. Well lucky for you if your older, as these are the kind of things we gain with age.

In hunter-gatherer societies the older men tend to get the younger, more attractive women. Older women who are still single or separated and are seen as “past their prime” have to make do with the younger men who are yet to achieve high status. Cougar anyone?

Even in our society, it’s pretty normal for women to want a man who’s at least a bit older than them. If in doubt the “half your age plus seven” rule is usually considered socially acceptable. I wouldn’t mind dating a 27 year old when I’m 40, would you?

Don’t use age as an excuse

Be honest with yourself – if you’ve ever thought “I’m too old to learn how to meet women”, do you really believe it or is it just an excuse not to do something about it? I’d take a bet at the latter. Get out there and meet some new women – they’ll likely be attracted to the life experience and confidence your age has given you.

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