Meeting and dating women is pretty easy – there are just two things you need to do:

• Be attractive
• Make things happen

I know you might be reading this and thinking “is it really that easy?” and in basic terms, yes it is. Every time you’ve messed things up with a girl you liked will because you didn’t act in the way that attractive guys act or because you didn’t make a move. In this article, I’m going to focus on “making a move”.

If you want to start dating that cute girl you meet in the bar on Saturday night, there are a bunch of things that will have to happen, usually in about the same order:

1. You need to start talking to her
2. You need to let her know that you’re interested in being more than “just friends”
3. You need to arrange to see her again, or maybe make something happen that night
4. You need to kiss her for the first time
5. You need to get back to your place or hers
6. You need to “get physical”

It may sound old-fashioned, but as a guy it’s pretty much your job to make all of this happen. Where guys often go wrong is they don’t want to mess up, so get nervous. Then they either don’t do one of the above, or fluff it over.

As you’re reading this, it’s probably a safe bet that you’re not having the success you want with girls and dating. Be honest with yourself and answer these two questions:

1. Which of the above 6 steps are you getting to consistently with girls?
2. Does it not go further because you don’t do anything, or because she says “no”?

If she says “no”, it’s most likely that she doesn’t find you attractive. Don’t worry, you can work on that. Women look for different things in guys than men do in women, and luckily most of them are things you can change.

In most cases, I find it’s because guys don’t make a move. Time to kick your ego to one side, man up and do something. If you’re afraid of going up and talking to girls, time to get started. If you meet a lot of women, but never move any further than polite conversation, try telling the next girl you meet and like that you think she’s sexy and you’d love to meet up for a drink. If you’re going on lots of dates, but nothing ever happens, when you’re on the next date and things are at a high see what happens if you try to kiss her.

Meeting and dating women can seem complicated, but in basic terms, it’s really that simple. Be a man and make things happen.

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