So many guys seem frustrated by this one. You’ve probably been in a similar situation – you meet a girl you like, but you end up becoming her friend and watching her get emotionally messed up by a string of bad boys. It’s easy to think “I’m a nice guy, I’d treat her so much better. Why doesn’t she like me?”

Amusingly, I have a bunch of female friends that are always complaining they can’t meet a “nice guy”. The truth is, they meet lots of nice guys. They just aren’t attracted to them.

So what is it about bad boys that drives women wild?

Some girls will genuinely go for guys who treat them really bad and are not good for them emotionally. These girls are often low self-esteem and probably not the kind of girls you want to be attracting anyway. However, there are some traits that “bad boys” have that you can learn from, that will help you to attract more women.

Bad boys are confident

Girls like confident guys, and bad boys usually have more than their fair share of confidence. These are men who know what they want and are not afraid to go and get it.

Aside from learning how to act more confidently by using your body language to your advantage, there are a few other things you can do to mimic what bad guys do.

For instance, “nice guys” often pander to a girl’s every want and need in a hope that she’ll like them for it. If this is you, try being honest and disagreeing from time to time. If you don’t like something she does, say so. If you want to go somewhere or do something, do it because you want to, not because you think she’ll like it.

We want what we can’t have

Girls are often told to play hard to get in order to make a man crazy about her. Well, it works the other way around too. “Bad boys” are unpredictable, difficult to make plans with and seem unlikely to get into a relationship. This has the effect of making them all the more desirable.

Never be too available to a girl, and always have something better to do if she cancels on your plans. If you get together with a new girl, don’t see her more than once per week for the first couple of months, and make sure you’ve got lots of fun stories about what you’ve been doing in between your time together.

Stimulating a girl’s emotions

Girls love a little drama in their lives. Why do you think they watch so many soap operas and spend all that time pouring over gossip magazines? This is because it stimulates their emotions.

Men who don’t understand this spend their time having polite conversations with girls, and stepping on eggshells in case they upset her. Bad boys don’t care. If they say something and it upsets her, so be it. If they think she’s being stupid, they’ll make fun of her.

Have a bit of fun, and don’t be afraid to elicit some emotions in her. If you lead her on an emotional journey, she’s likely to want you more.

You don’t have to be a complete asshole for girls to like you, but it’ll do you a whole lot of good to be a bit more selfish, show some confidence and poke a little fun at girls from time to time. If you do it right, it can be fun for both of you.

Tags: bad boys, confidence, female psychology

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