A big problem many men have when meeting women is they are never sure whether to make a move or not. We get comfortable having fun and don’t want to mess it up by awkwardly trying to kiss her and being rejected.

For me, I have two basic rules that tell me she might be interested:

1. She is talking to me
2. She is talking to me

Confidence is everything, of course…

I understand that you may be looking for something a little more reliable before you venture into the unknown world of trying to kiss a girl for the first time, or maybe even just ask her out for a drink. Remember though, girls will not usually explicitly tell you they are interested, and are even less likely to make the first move. You’re the man, that’s your job. So, here’s a quick run-down of some reliable indications that she might be interested in you:

She leans towards you and touches you while you’re talking

If she’s into you, she’s more likely to invade your personal space a little and will probably be comfortable with a little physical contact. If she’s leaning forward and hanging on to your every word, chances are she fancies you

She touches herself while you’re talking

Before you get any dirty thoughts in your mind, I’m talking about self grooming or fussing over her appearance. A common thing on this theme is touching or playing with her hair. In the words of The Streets “I saw this thing on ITV the other week, Said, that if she played with her hair, she’s probably keen She’s playin with her hair, well regularly, So i reckon i could well be in. “ 

She laughs at your jokes

Women love a guy who makes her laugh, and laughter is also a way of expressing acceptance of another person’s point of view. If she laughs with you, she’s accepting you. She’ll also associate all of those positive emotions she’s just experienced with your company, which can’t be a bad thing, can it?

She tells you things about herself to impress you

If she starts mentioning how she’s an olympic swimmer, or a singer, or that she cooks the best Spaghetti Bolognaise in London, there’s a good chance she wants to get to know you better

She asks you things about yourself

If she asks you how old you are, or whether you have brother or sisters, or where you work, there’s a good chance she likes you. Would you ask the same questions of a girl you had no interest in?

She’s still there talking to you

It might sound like a small thing, but think about it – an attractive girl and has lots of options as to who she talks to. But she’s there with you. Unless this is because you’ve made it physically awkward for her to leave, this is probably a good enough sign that you might have a chance.

On a final note, I’ve had a few occasions where guys have told me they’ve arranged to meet a girl that they met in a bar for drinks, but they are not sure if she wants to be more than friends. Take it from me, girls don’t go out with guys they met in a bar to be “just friends”. If you’ve got that far, it’s just down to you not to mess up.

Tags: dating, female psychology

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