I read an interesting article today on how confidence can bring success in your life. Confidence is definitely one of the key factors in what women find attractive. So, what can you do to become more confident?

For me, confidence is all about experience. The more you do something, the better at it you become and the more confident you become. It’s a virtuous circle. This applies to anything we do, including meeting women. Here are a few tips on how you can not only improve your confidence when meeting women, but also appear more confident when you’re not feeling it.

Practice, practice, practice

As I’ve already mentioned, the more you do something, the more confident you will become. Make a conscious effort to put yourself in situations that have previously felt a little uncomfortable in. Go out to a lot of bars, but rarely meet any women? Make a promise to yourself that you’ll speak to at least five new women the next few times you go out. Always see cute girls when you’re at the supermarket shopping? Talk to just one of them each time you go for the next month.

It will be a little painful at first, but stick with it, and you’ll gradually get better, and that will bring confidence.

Use confident body language

I teach a whole section on body language when working as a dating coach for men, which is quite difficult to go into in detail on a blog post, but there are a few things you can do very easily. First, stand with yoru back straight and head up – avoid the temptation to lean in towards people while ou are talking to them. When we feel threatened or nervous, we tend to cover three areas of our body – our face, our chest and our groins. Keep your arms comfortably by your side, and your legs a short distance apart – shoulder width is ideal – to avoid this.

Slow down

When we are unsure of ourselves, we tend to talk too quickly. Make a conscious effort to slow down when you are speaking, and then slow down a little more. Confident people talk slowly and clearly, as they are sure people will listen and are not concerned that someone might cut them off mid-sentence.

Smile

Not only does smiling make you appear more confident, but positivity is contagious. Wouldn’t you want women to feel positive and happy when they are around you? Then, smile more.

Think about how you can implement the advice in this article into the way you act, and you’ll soon see a difference ot just with the way that women act around you, but in many areas of your life.

Tags: body language, confidence, dating

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